Many women who have experienced miscarriage can relate to a Taylor Swift song…

Last Updated on 04/01/2023 by てんしょく飯

‘This song spoke for me’.

A song on Taylor Swift’s latest album Midnights has reminded some listeners of their experience of pregnancy loss, and they have found comfort in listening to the song.

The author of this article has actually experienced a miscarriage in the past. The loss of the baby in her belly did not heal immediately, and she felt a sense of ‘self-loathing’. She felt sorry for herself and wondered if it was her fault, and wondered if she could have saved her life if she had done the right thing at the right time or not made the right choice. The ultimate result is that they look at other people’s children and lament, “I envy you” or “Why am I the only one”.

Although this author was not able to meet them at the time, many pregnancy loss survivors seem to find solace in a song by Taylor Swift. That song is ‘Bigger Than the Whole Sky’ from her latest album Midnights. The song contains the following lyrics.

Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye

You were bigger than the whole sky

You were more than just a short time

And I’ve got a lot to pine about

And I’ve got a lot to pine about

I’m never gonna meet

What could’ve been, would’ve been

What should’ve been you

What could’ve been, would’ve been you

[Video] Taylor Swift – Bigger Than The Whole Sky (Official Lyric Video)

The song, which is about a ‘someone’ you will never meet, but who is important to you, seems to have been an encouragement and comfort to many people who have lost a pregnancy. Some of the comments on Twitter include.

I had a miscarriage in June. I’m not over it, I’m not okay. （I couldn’t put [this feeling] into words, but this song speaks for me. It’s subjective of course, but that’s what this song means to me. Thank you, Taylor Swift.”

‘Taylor Swift’s new song ‘Bigger Than the Whole Sky’ resonates strongly with those who have experienced miscarriage. I could have cried every time I listened to that song over and over again.”

According to TODAY, Ashley Fritz, 30, from Michigan, US, also recalled her miscarriage three years ago as soon as she heard ‘Bigger Than the Whole Sky’. ‘The first verse (A-mello) could have hit any loss, so I didn’t even think about pregnancy,’ Ashley cut in, ‘The lyrics, ‘I’m going to say words you won’t believe’, I was like, ‘No, no, no, it’s okay. Time will heal this and you’ll get over it’,” and also remarked, “I was crying on the kitchen floor at the time. She revealed that the song by Taylor made her realise anew the depth of her hurt.

‘I finally got to listen to something that made me cry, feel emotions and let myself go a bit.’

Caitlin Haugen, 28, who has a two-year-old son, was one of those who remembered her pregnancy loss after listening to the song. Caitlin, who said the song reminded her of when her second pregnancy didn’t work in July, said of that time: ‘My first pregnancy loss was really difficult. From a parent’s perspective, I already knew how much I loved my son, and the loss – the loss of his younger siblings and the love I knew I would feel for my other child – was devastating”.

Caitlin said of her feelings when she heard ‘Bigger Than the Whole Sky’ that she was “surprised that it said the same thing [as she thought] word for word” and that “I can’t remember a song that brings the experience of pregnancy loss so close to home for me”.

Although the website reports that one in four pregnancies results in a miscarriage, this figure is thought to be much higher, as many people may have a miscarriage before they realise they are pregnant. A 2015 study also found that people say they mistakenly believe miscarriages are rare or caused by stress, and that these superstitions lead to stigma, criticism and guilt.